Im dating a guy with a kid
I remember fairly early in our relationship, we were at dinner and out of nowhere his demeanor completely changed from happy to sad.
I loved hearing him get so excited talking about the cute little things they would do.It’ll take some time to meet them but when you do, be interested.The kids had to deal with their parents splitting up, which can be hard, so I knew that meeting them wasn’t going to come right away.Just like it was new to me to have kids in my life, having another woman in his and his children’s lives was new to him, too.I wanted him to know that I was supportive of his little family. Whether it’s an ex-wife, ex-girlfriend or ex-one-night stand, there will be another woman in the picture ALWAYS.I honestly found this extremely tough and had to check my jealousy at the door.
There were constant reminders of her, not only in the kids themselves but in memories, photos, and so on.
This helped me to focus on keeping our relationship strong. Overall, I knew that I had to be a person that meant a hell of a lot to my boyfriend.
Since he had two little people that depended on him, he wasn’t going to go bringing just anyone into that dynamic.
Again, I had to hold in any jealous feelings and be mindful.
These moments came where he’d miss regular, routine things and all I could do was listen and be there.
I let them decide how they wanted to get to know me and it developed naturally the more we interacted.