My ex is dating a rich guy
He does pay for all of our dates, but he didn’t get me a Hanukah gift (or any other gifts! We are both Jewish and Hanukah is a big deal…and I got him very nice gifts.
Either way, it’s his right to spend as little as he wants and a conversation about it could go either way. As long as the only thing he is being “cheap” about is gift giving, I don’t see the big deal.He gets paid by the hour to work a physically demanding job that doesn’t require a college degree. Which means, according to the evolutionary psychologists, that I should find him roughly as attractive as a serial killer.Either that or I must be so hopelessly undesirable myself that I’m forced to scrape the bottom of the relationship barrel.Do you mean expensive, substantial gifts or any gifts at all (flowers, chocolates, trinkets that made him think of you)?If it is the former, please, please don’t get hung up on that.While I agree that it would be nice if he spoiled you with something nice every once in a while, that is not a measure of his love.
On the other hand, if it is the latter and in 7 months he has never given you anything, I’m not sure what to say.
In fact, since he’s going through a divorce, I’d think the LAST thing he’d want is someone who might be perceived as an entitled gold digger and that any “cheap” jabs will quickly trigger his break-up reflex. Hmmm…a few things that are missing from this letter.
Long story short: if you don’t like the way your boyfriend spends his money, find a new boyfriend. OP, you mentioned that he has never bought you any gifts.
Maybe he is not the gift giving kind or maybe he’s being very careful given his circumstances.
Either way, I don’t know if there is a way to bring this up without seeming grabby, especially given the delicate situation.
The problem is, in my own immodest opinion, I’m a solid competitor in the mating game.