Dating twenty years younger
And yet, they probably resemble Penelope’s dad more than they resemble her brother….
They’re more experienced, more chivalrous, and more likely to want to settle down than a twentysomething party boy.I told her what the situation was and she helpfully boiled it down for me. ” I said, “Yes I am.” She countered with “Well, that’s all that matters.” I still haven’t told my folks, but I suspect my mom has figured it out. I’m okay with not having to discuss it further for the time being. In reality, I am old enough to technically be his mother, but I still don’t care. But let’s not pretend that we, as a culture, don’t worship at the altar of youth. He’s got the job and the home and the car, and been divorced with a kid already.If you’re over the age of 40 and have ever said, “But I’m told I look five years younger than my age”, then you’re not immune to it yourself. And nobody has more choices than a 28-year-old woman. So if a woman finds it more appealing to just step into that world – to jump from the prolonged adolescence of the late 20’s into full-fledged settled-down womanhood – that could make sense.It took us a few months to actually start dating — I was still trying to make it work with guys my own age and he had other pursuits for a while as well. You know, I could go on and on about the whole double standard thing, but you and I both know that’s not going to change anytime soon and I feel like talking about it is just a waste of breath.
I was honestly hesitant at the start — what was I going to tell my family? She’s younger than my mom (she’s the one who introduced me to rock ‘n’ roll, so I figured she’d be as good a jumping-off point as any). I know I’m still going to have to defend my decision to a lot of people — and I’m ready to do so. I just thought that sharing my story might help shatter the stereotype of the “c-word.” The moral of the story: Be with whomever makes you happy.
An older man’s going to be the strong, nurturing guy who takes care of her, teaches her, and treats her like a princess – the kind of relationship that she probably lacked growing up.
Hey, I’m no psychologist – just your friendly, neighborhood dating coach. Whether we like it or not, there is nearly a full generation gap between 28 and 45.
Okay, Evan, I agree mostly with your opinion on younger men/older women. I mean, I can see why an older man would want to date a younger woman – physically that is, but why would a 28-year-old woman want to date a man 45 or more? I can totally understand why older men go for younger women.
There’s no denying that they’re, for the most part, in better shape, with better skin, and less baggage from broken relationships.
There are some “cultural” differences that occur when you’re dating a younger guy. He’s never seen “Raising Arizona,” but he loves Bob Dylan and Jim Croce. He describes himself as an “old soul.” I’ve taken him to social gatherings where he was one of the youngest adults there, and, thanks to his amazing sense of humor and the fact that he performs on stage in front of hundreds of strangers a week, he’s blended in with flying colors. I get the occasional look — especially when we go out for drinks and get carded (hey, at least I’m still getting carded).