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Is being exclusive the same as being someone’s significant other? Old me would have said yes too, but now I think I’m changing camps.I no longer thinks it’s possible to accidentally end up in a relationship.
Wikipedia defines infatuation as: the state of being completely carried away by unreasoning passion or love; addictive love.official significant others, and on the other you have your “romantic experiences” aka dates, crushes, and hookups.You can’t confidently define these “romantic experiences” as negative.Developed by Mark Knapp, the Relational Development Model (also aptly known as “Knapp’s Theory”) is the sort of theory that you know about without actually knowing about.During “experimenting” you are realizing you both think fedora hats are stupid. But it seems like the “intensifying” and “integrating” phases are becoming hazy in modern dating: You’re a couple at a BBQ, but you don’t want to use labels.“But one night some emotional trigger goes off in my brain and I finally explain that the ‘just friends’ joke is too vulnerable for me,” says Janelle.
“He feels awful about not being clear — he thought we both loved the ‘just friends’ joke — and asks me to be his girlfriend.
A man who has chosen to go anonymous but said I could refer to him as a “freelance lovemaker” thinks exclusivity and being significant others are one in the same. “When I’m exclusive with someone I like, it’s primarily my desire that I don’t need to worry about if she is being with other people,” says 25-year-old Bryn.
“If you’re only going to sleep with one person and you only want to sleep with that one person, that person is your boyfriend or girlfriend,” says FL. “When you’re not bf/gf’ there is less of a pressure to analyze that relationship in terms of having a defined future with them.
Stephanie Amada, a faculty member in the Department of Writing, Rhetoric, and American Cultures at Michigan State University, told me that she sees being significant others with someone as entirely separate from being exclusive — because words.
“I don’t know if I can put my finger on what makes it different, but as someone who works with language, I think the words we use are really important,” says Amada.
“How we identify ourselves, with words, is important.