How to progress from casual dating to a relationship
If dating Swedish men was confusing enough, then dating Swedish women must be more so.
Swedish girls are everything what you fantasize about.I’ve only done this twice before: once, in a post defending Lori Gottlieb’s “Marry Him,” and a second time, in a post explaining my opposition to Rori Raye’s “Circular Dating.” These were the only two times that I remember being equally frustrated at how something was being misconstrued that I needed to take an hour and go through a bullet point by bullet point dissection of my original thesis.Now I know that writing this is not going to change a thing. First of all, here was the premise of my original post: “You want to find out if a man is serious about you? If you don’t – because you’re a liberated woman who can have sex whenever you damn well please – don’t be too surprised if a decent percentage of those men never call again.What you can’t do is argue with advice that is not intended for you.This is the exact same issue I had with women who tried to pillory Lori Gottlieb’s “Marry Him,” by saying that they settled in their first marriage so Ms.Australian fitness pro Kayla Itsines is known for her incredible progress pictures, so her followers came together to inspire other women and show that often, 'after' pictures are taken in ideal circumstances.'I wasn't going to post this as I found it pretty confronting! There are just 30 seconds between these photos and some adjusting of my shorts,' one BBG fan wrote on Instagram. We decide what snippets of our lives we want to share...
- Pull shorts up above your hips- Tense and flex every muscle - Find complementary lighting- Stand tall and flex your stomach - Stand with your hip to the side and leg slightly out to show off muscle - Smile 'In the photo on the right, I'm standing tall, I'm flexing my stomach, my spine is in proper alignment.
People who were irked by the concept that women should make men invest more before having sex are still probably going to be irked – but at least I’ll know that I gave it my best shot to illustrate my arguments effectively. Again, I’m not remotely judgmental of those who have sex without commitment; I will only point out as a dating coach that it tends to lead to sub-optimal results from men because they didn’t have to do anything special to get into bed with you.” I can’t see anything about which one can argue. 🙂 Below are some of the comments I received (in italics), along with my responses.
“What about having sex for the sheer joy of it without any agenda and expectation? If you can have sex for the sheer joy of it without any agenda and expectation, then my advice to hold out for a commitment should be completely irrelevant. As irrelevant as me wondering how often I should get a mammogram. If advice doesn’t apply to you, then you can absolutely ignore it.
As my friend put it: Swedish blond bombshells may be tough and viking-like on the outside, but they are still soft, delicate women on the inside. PS – I’m well aware that this post constitutes a generalization. Please however comment on something more constructive.
Please don’t comment that I’m stereotyping and stereotyping sucks, wah wah wah. Perhaps why Swedish women have a reputation of being blond/beautiful or why the negative reputation of being “sluts.” Or your experience dating a Swedish girl or being a Swedish girl and dating.
But I have a few Swedish girlfriends and they all have opinions of their fellow male counterparts. Swedish guys have done a good job of losing their balls over the years, part thanks to feminism, part thanks to super tight jeans that served as self castrating devices.