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Fortunately, I had a fantastic group of friends who helped.Maybe none of them knew exactly what I was going through, but they babysat and showered Mae with love, which I appreciate to this day. were born outside of marriage, according to the Centers for Disease Control.

Wise singles recognize this important dynamic and don’t assume that becoming a couple necessarily means that they can become a family. Parents who begin dating quickly after the end of a relationship (whether by death or divorce) or who reach a quick decision to marry after a brief dating period often find their children more resistant to the marriage. Smart singles take a good long look in the mirror before dating. Smart single parents don’t let their children’s emotions dictate their dating progress, but they do listen and give serious consideration to how the children are feeling (becoming a couple is up to you; whether you become a family is up to them). Teens and adult children need to move toward your dating partner at their own pace. (And weren’t you looking for someone who would be a great mother? She’s incredibly patient, but doesn’t have a lot of tolerance for bad behavior. Tread lightly at first and continue to monitor and process everyone’s fears or concerns. Since you can’t judge lasting love by physical accoutrements or initial biochemical attractions, you need an objective measure of the qualities, attributes, and character of the person you are looking for.If the other person has children as well, it might be wise to orchestrate early get-togethers with just one set of children. But you also need—and here’s where single parents fall short—a silhouette of the type of family you are hoping to create.When my daughter, Mae, was 7 months old, her father and I split up.

He left the country -- without saying goodbye, I might add -- to start a new life.

I was a hormonal, heartbroken 28-year-old, and in between work hours spent editing textbooks, I nursed Mae and mashed up baby food. It didn't help that there were no single-mom role models in my life -- except, say, Madonna, who was also parenting solo at the time.

, I used to think, but I hardly had a superstar's life.

After a time, I got back on my feet and ventured out. A lot more single moms than I had ever noticed before. It's an all-time high -- and it's not due to teen moms (teen motherhood is at its lowest rate in 65 years).

Births to unmarried women ages 25 to 29 are up 30 percent since 1991; births to unmarried women ages 30 to 44 are up 17 percent.

Soft invitations such as, “Roger will be having dinner with me on Saturday. Children of all ages, young to old, benefit when a parent says, “I can see that the idea of my dating scares you. and probably don’t want any more changes to our family. I appreciate your being honest with me.” Use phrases like “this scares you,” “you’re afraid that our family won’t be the same,” or “you don’t want to have to change schools or leave your friends.” This type of response validates the child’s fears. If you fall in love don’t abandon your kids by spending all of your free time with your newfound love. This is especially true for children under the age of five, who can bond to someone you are dating more quickly than you can.