Dating a guy with social anxiety
As such, some of the comments (which I have preserved) bring up points that I have since addressed in this revision.
Dating Adam doesn’t “upgrade” me in any way – we’re both equals.I know I am being sneaky/snoopy by checking up on him to see how often her goes on the site (and he goes on often! It’s not like I’d call this guy my boyfriend already, I know it’s still early… Author’s note: I have expanded the content of this article since it’s original post (as I do from time to time).This is thanks, in part, to your excellent comments and questions from the audience.this is separate, but I want to address it for your sake in general).If I were in your shoes, I would say something along the lines of: “Hey listen…I am asking because I don’t know if this agreement is assumed on your part or if he explicitly said, “Yes, you and I are exclusive…” or, better yet, “I want to be exclusive with you.” I’ll explain why I bring that up in a moment, but at any rate I agree with you that checking his dating profile seems out of step with having an exclusive relationship with you…
I also wouldn’t even classify this as snooping, per se. You didn’t somehow break into and read his emails or texts.
It’s reasonable to interpret that as meaning you’ve agreed to not date anyone or sleep with anyone else, but I want to ask: when you agreed to be exclusive, how did this come about?
How clear was his side of the agreement to being committed?
If we’re being honest here, I was one of these girls at one point.
From the ages of 17 to 20, I was only interested in white guys.
Again, I don’t think it makes you bad, but I have to look out for myself. So if you do want an exclusive relationship with me, let’s go all the way. And if you do want it, let’s clear the slate and commit to that.” Now…