Dating checklist com
My longest relationships were with people who met the value-based criteria. I don’t have any “out of the ordinary” requirements, but I do know what I do and don’t want in a relationship.
For others, the “list” may be a bit more mental – and a little more subtle.Since I’m not much of a dater, I don’t usually go out with a guy unless I really see potential. There’s a few things (like two dozen) that I always have at the forefront of my mind, but most of it is just like a completely casual, non-emotional stunting, mental pro-con list. Just the men who think that’s possible for the rest of us. I think they may be shorter lists and lists change upon circumstances (i.e. I would hope to be qualified similar to how I qualify men. Lisa: Absolutely – and I’m sure like ours, their lists have evolved as they’ve gotten older.Numero uno: If you send me a d**k pic, it’s getting posted on the internet along with your number. My friend Jameson is always the voice of reason when I’m out in da’ clubs (I hate myself), and keeps it super real and is usually like, “Bro, that dude only kind of looks like he might have a little meth in his eye. If they haven’t, they’re probably not someone you’d want to be with anyhow. Their lists are created by their penises, and women create our list with our hearts. In fact, I think men have a variety of lists for different circumstances.Since then, my list has evolved – maybe not necessarily shortened or grown, but change in what I consider more important.If I had to cut my list down to five non-negotiables, I suppose it would be honesty, respect, ambition, attraction and undeniable chemistry.Let’s just say the list is composed of values, characteristics, vain/looks, and fun quirky things.
I honestly think, at the ripe ole age of 18 (never having a boyfriend or anything) I had a good sense of what I wanted in a man.
It’s a fact that most of us have checklists describing the qualities of our ideal mate.
I’m not going to say whether this is a good thing or a bad thing. When you’ve been on the planet for close to 40 years, you probably have a pretty good idea about what you’re looking for in a man.
If I had to cut my list down to five non-negotiables, I’d say that I must get butterflies from the get-go, be physically attracted to him, and he must be kind hearted, not afraid to show emotions and must be a gentleman. I try, and I usually I know within the first interaction with that person if I can see it moving forward or not. If I were to actually sit down and write out a list, I would say the majority of it would be made up of stuff like morals, values, dedication… As I’ve gotten older, my criteria has become more focused on values – it’s more about the type of person I’d want to be stuck with for the rest of my life. I do find myself making assumptions about certain things when looking through online dating sites.
For example, I’ll see an investment banker and automatically assume he’s a total douchelord based on this bit of information. I’ve never actually taken the time to sit down and write a list.
If I had to list out my criteria, I’d say I’m looking for a tall, dark, and handsome man. I think that my requirements can hinder me sometimes because I can seem too picky, but I also believe that they are helpful.