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And, since I don't have a top-notch memory, it also requires keeping a handy list in my phone.
People who get involved too quickly shut out others because they don’t rotate dates.I was fresh out of a relationship, breakup wounds still searing.But, rather than stay single, I figured out what the hell I wanted from my next long-term partner, dived straight into dating, and found myself in the middle of a rotation — that is, seeing a multitude of men, all noncommittally.If it causes you unnecessary stress, or you’re using the relationships to avoid other issues, opt out.And, if you're meeting a lot of interesting people, "keeping your options open," and having a blast? Now that I'm older, I usually tend to only have strong feelings for one guy at a time.”Though dating a horde of people can feel fun and freeing, for most adventurers, it isn’t entirely sustainable.
“I don’t plan on dating this way forever,” Monica says.
It's just gotten more buzz ever since Chloe, the infamous party girl and lead character from Of course, I’m not the only 20-something who jumped into a rotation immediately following a breakup.
Nina, a 25-year-old accountant living in Chicago, started hers after a four-year relationship ended. And, Monica*, a 25-year-old producer in New York City, can also echo the experience.
One guy in my aforementioned Notes section is simply labeled as “The Best,” and another man isn’t even on the list, since I so easily remember everything about him.
So far, I've been able to balance my strong affection for multiple men, but not everyone finds this easily attainable (or even desirable). A.-based Elle, 26, says, “When I was younger, I might have liked more than one guy.
“I feel like I would stop immediately if I met someone I really liked.” Gretchen, a former multi-dater who is now in a committed, long-term relationship, says: “Having a rotation worked for me, and I had fun.