Aspie dating an aspie
The rules change across age, gender, who you are with, culture, environment, etc.And to add another layer of complexity, most Aspies have difficulty generalizing, so what they have learned for one situation may or may not be carried over to a similar situation – the scenario!
One great tool for direct instruction is the by the Blackwell Family.For each day of the calendar year, there is one specific need-to-know lesson.In our home, we read the calendar item at dinner time and then use it as a jumping off point for discussion and explanation.I shudder to think what might have happened if he still believed ‘rule’ into his teenage years…Yikes!!! The inability to develop adequate social skills and interpret social nuance of those around them brings life-long challenges to Aspies.We, as NT adults in society, are willing to explain and excuse social ‘misbehaviors’ in very young children, but as they get older, kids and certainly adults are expected to know these unwritten, unspoken items of general understanding. Because, breaking a by direct instruction versus intuition.We don’t recall learning most of these rules, because “everybody just KNOWS that!
” We NTs are unconscious social navigators and learn naturally through observation and intuition.
There are a variety of methods that may be used to help your child acquire unwritten social knowledge, many of which you can read about in available reference material.
One fabulous book, from which I gained my first insights into this area, is called Identify one or more ‘safe people’ at home, school, camp, etc.
These rules are wide-reaching and complex, covering a variety of topics from table manners to slang words, dating protocol to classroom etiquette…and much more.
Virtually every aspect of our daily lives is based upon a foundation of hidden curricula – widely-held assumed knowledge that we probably don’t even remember learning.
In spite of being potentially brilliant in other intellectual arenas, they have what is called social-cognitive learning disabilities when it comes to the.