Dating advice too good to be true
Our confidence rises because we “won” someone so gorgeous – but it falls because we feel that we’re “the less attractive one” in the relationship.
(Yes, I’ve had dates try to pass off food that they bought, or food that their parents/siblings/etc. It was still sort of impressive, but more from a manipulative standpoint.) If your partner isn’t trying to impress you, but rather just make sure you’re fed – cooking for each other is a wonderful bonding experience, and I highly recommend that the both of you cook for each other when you have the chance. It’s been under debate lately on whether talent is “inherent” or if it’s “learned”. If your girlfriend seems especially talented in a particular area, no matter what area that is, it displays that she has practiced.This means that partners who treat their partner well are generally expecting the favor to be returned, and those who treat a partner badly generally feel that they “deserve” to be catered to.(I’m only speaking from personal experience right now.) If your partner treats you well, and you’ve never been treated well before, you may have an association that you don’t “deserve” the good treatment.I’ll admit, my very first thought was, “How is she even making this extra money?” And that’s a little sad, if the first thing you think when your partner gets you a gift is .For the most part, if your partner is treating you well, all you should do in response is make sure that you do right by her, as well.
Of course, it’s always a good idea to treat your partner well, but that’s particularly true if she makes you feel that you are worthy of so much more than you’ve ever had.
I’m a firm believer that every relationship should have “some magic” in it, although the extent of that magic is certain to vary.
But what happens if I have had exactly one relationship in my entire life where I was spoiled with gifts.
Sometimes this practice is deliberate, meaning she specifically challenges herself, and other times it just – she likes something, so she does it a lot, and she gets better at it over time.
It doesn’t really matter what method your lover uses to practice her talents, and in many ways it doesn’t matter what her talents are, either. I once found myself making a reasonably big deal about my “artistic talent” (that is to say that I took an art class in high school and kept a few of my better works), only to find out that the woman I was with was basically a legend. Usually, talents aren’t anything that could be due to something else.
Just because you don’t think you’re as attractive as your girlfriend doesn’t mean she agrees.