Someone who uses porn might think along the same lines: “I’m just watching video clips made by actors and actresses, not intentionally seeking digital interactions with a prostitute.” I agree, but motives only carry of the weight when it comes to our moral decisions.
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Pornography is about getting yourself off at someone else’s expense.” If your husband (or wife) is engrossed in porn, you are right to feel like this is cheating.
In the other world, we enjoy the convenience and self-centeredness of solo-sex in front of the computer screen.
These two worlds mix like oil and water in our miry hearts.
By “cheating” I mean that using porn is breaking a vow—either implicitly or explicitly—made to one’s spouse. Both in this case and in the previous case I am seeking the services of a prostituted woman for sexual pleasure—seeking out and enjoying the body of a woman who is not my wife in order to be sexually gratified. The pretense of no physical contact doesn’t matter because the action still violates the spirit of the sexual exclusivity. Let’s say I reach out to this prostitute and pay her to view her recorded videos which she gladly sells me. Does the change in title and the veneer of professionalism change the nature of the act? Step 6: Now let’s say that this entire enterprise is industrialized so that this woman is part of a large network of other prostitutes who are doing the same thing.
This is because marriage is, in part, about sexual exclusivity; it is about “forsaking all others.” Take some steps with me down a morally slippery slope. Step 2: However, let’s say that when I met with the prostitute : I just watched her have sex with someone else while I masturbated in the same room. Could a man rightly say, “Yes, I pleasured myself in front of a hooker, but we didn’t touch each other. Step 3: However, let’s say I didn’t visit the prostitute in person but only interacted with her through erotic video chat. Step 5: Now let’s say the prostitute has a business card with a fancy title on it: “Pornographic Actress.” She even has a website with a resume listing of all the films she’s been in. Much like walking into a brothel, I can pick the woman I want when I want, pay my fee, and enjoy her body for my lustful purposes. What about the industrialized nature of the product changes the nature of the act? And on this last step we have arrived at what the modern porn industry is. It is engagement with a digital prostitute despite one’s vow to forsake all others.
They may all be cheating, but they all show different levels of intensity.