Dating someone older in age
Eventually, we arranged to meet at a cafe near my apartment.At the meeting, we spent over an hour discussing his writing.
This revelation soured me against dating any man who was more than a few years older. Last year, after a hiatus from online dating, I decided to return.It seemed as if my friend's instincts were off, I thought. Earlier in our meeting, Bob described moving to the area as a 30-year-old in 1978 – the year I was born.But just as I was about to leave, Bob admitted that he was not that interested in me as a writing coach, but as a romantic prospect. Yet when I rejected him, he looked stung and startled, as though he was completely unaware of our significant age difference.He introduced himself and inquired about what we did for a living.When I told him I was a writer, he became intrigued.“I don't think it's your writing he's interested in,” she said.
I thought back to the white-haired gentleman at the bar who was easily old enough to be my father and shook my head. Over the next couple of weeks, Bob sent me several samples of his writing without a trace of any innuendo or flirtation.
Dating much younger women seems to stem from these men's unhealthy and unrealistic obsession with youth – perhaps a way to stave off fears of their own mortality.
In fact, such a lopsided romance is my origin story.
I was considered too old for men my age, but not for those with 15 years or more on me.
As Ok Cupid founder Christian Rudder has said, this is quite common.
At 33, I found it much harder to meet men than it had been in my early twenties.