Dating other graduate students
The undergrad's friends might find it a reason to tease, but that by itself isn't a big deal.In my case, I dated an undergrad majoring in architecture while I was a grad student in computer science, that didn't make a difference.
Improving your looks online In its first few months, Date My School was only offered to undergraduate and graduate students at 20 schools, including Columbia, New York University, Harvard University and MIT.Option one makes your relationship more unstable, but going for option two requires a lot of trust. I won’t lie: when we got close to the three week deadline that the more experienced student had given us, I had a huge crying fit.You have to believe that your relationship will last through the program, that your partner will see your efforts and be grateful, and that if there’s a time in the future where you’re less available to the relationship, your partner will step up to the plate instead of just leaving you. I think my relationship deserves it, and I think my boyfriend deserves it—he’s seen me through hard times, dealt well with the parts of me that other people would see as difficult, and just been so fun to be around that I want to keep anging out just to see what pun he makes next. We weren’t having relationship problems, but I was still afraid that his grad school would throw us a huge curveball sometime in the next five days, and I’d be hearing, “It’s not you, it’s me…” My boyfriend comforted me.I’m an inherently disorganized person, so this isn’t easy for me, and I’d probably get resentful of the extra work if my boyfriend didn’t openly appreciate it. When your partner is in grad school, they can’t bring as much to the relationship as they can when they’re less busy.So, you pretty much have two choices: you can withdraw a little from the relationship yourself and keep things 50/50, or you can bring more to the table than you used to, even though it’s not exactly fair.Lara Hirner, a grad student at Columbia University's Teachers College, has gone on dates to the opera, Central Park and ice cream shops with guys she met on Date My School.
"The guys place the same priority on education and the same passion for their careers as I do," Hirner said.
For one thing, watching your partner follow their dreams can make you resentful—or it can make you focus more on your own ambitions. “When I got my acceptance letter, my boyfriend got inspired to make new strides in his career.
It doesn’t work out like that for everyone, but both of us are motivating each other to go farther.” It works even better if both halves of a relationship are obsessed with the same thing.
Plus, I’m trying to figure out whether a writing MFA would be a good time investment for me, and talking to my boyfriend and his fellow students is giving me a lot of insight into how the program works. Obviously, grad students are using a lot of energy on their program instead of on their relationships. On the bright side, the busy-ness issues mean that my time-management skills are really getting polished.
Every Saturday, I write out all of our obligations for the week, and try to tweak our schedules so we have time together.
Alexa and Meyer, both recent graduates of the Business School, came up with the idea after a girlfriend complained that there was not enough testosterone in the School of Social Work.