Single mom with kids and dating
Slowly, my sense that I had a contagious disease lifted, and I found myself expanding my definition of what makes a family."It's crucial to explain to children that family is defined by people who love us and whom we feel really close to," says M.
The emotional burden can wear a mom down in a hurry.I felt like a flake -- not a strong, capable mother who was going teach her children to succeed despite the obstacles ahead.When I was married, we were just like all the other families: our own tiny self-sufficient universe.But because your kids depend on you, you can’t afford to push yourself past a certain point.You must take care of yourself and your health in order to be there for them.We were angry at each other, and, let's face it, looking for ways to hurt each other.
But no matter how right I felt I was, deep down in my heart I knew: Being in constant fight mode was horrible for my kids, and it was making me even more miserable.
There’s guilt about the financial things you can’t provide, guilt about the time you spend away from them, guilt about the things you just can’t do because of your situation.
Regardless of how your children became the kids of a single parent, you worry daily about the effect that it’s having on them and feel responsible.
They upset your financial balance, and leave one adult shouldering a load that is typically carried by two.
Even if you’re a single adoptive parent and chose the challenge of going it alone, it’s still tough.
Let’s face it: you’re doing alone what was designed to be a two-person job.