Dating tip for shy teen
There is no way around it; your teenager is going to want to date.
If you’re not a talker, think up a list of possible topics -- TV shows, music, school -- before the date, Piorkowski says. “With texting and email, all you get is words,” Piorkowski says.Having an eyes-on policy might be necessary and healthy in some circumstances.But make sure you offer your teen at least a little bit of privacy.Don't listen in on every phone call and don't read every social media message.Of course, those rules don't necessarily apply if you have valid safety concerns.Talk to your teen about how real life dates don't mimic what might be seen in the movies.
Instead, first dates may be awkward, but they can also be a lot of fun.
She’s special, and you’ve finally found the courage to ask her out. You should also be respectful in how you approach her. Mention an activity, like going to a movie or a basketball game, and then ask her what she thinks about the idea. “Most young women do not feel good about being pushed.” During the date, focus on her, not yourself. “I think we’re past the days when a strong female would be offended if you opened the door for her,” says California State University of Sacramento psychologist Nancy Kalish, Ph D. Once you start dating, it’s easy to start thinking that the world revolves around this girl. Remember, the reason she gave you for the breakup may not be the true reason.
This goes beyond the (hopefully) obvious steps of bathing and using deodorant, which are important. That way you at least get a clue from the tone of her voice.
For those teens who tend to be shy, meeting in person can be much more difficult. Be open with your teen about everything from treating someone else with respect to your values about sexual activity.
Discuss potential problems teens may face when entering the dating scene, like the pressure to become sexually active or the pressure to get involved in a serious relationship.
Make sure your teen knows that just because he's ready to go on a date, doesn't necessarily mean he's ready for a relationship.